I didn't want to be the only one to say it, but now that Doug has chimed in, I believe your issue is not the kind that experts on this forum can solve. What you need is a second pair of eyes to look at what you are doing and point out where you are going wrong.

This is a situation for an Adagio consultant (who you will have to pay).

Sometimes being told that you need to pay someone to solve your problem and who you need to pay is valuable advice in itself. Don't you just hate paying a plumber to tell you that the leak is a roofing problem.

Steve